I have social phobia and I m afraid to go into the restaurant? Don t dare to go for a haircut. What

I understand your mood very well, because I have also experienced that social phobia is actually a bit of a "perfectionism" factor in it, I can suggest you take a look at the "NetEase Open Class" happiness class perfectionism section, I believe it is very helpful!

First of all, don't reject the emotion of "nervousness", each of us is the same, we are most comfortable when we are alone, whether it is talking to relatives, or very good friends, we will not be as comfortable as being alone, let alone strangers in restaurants, barber shops, and buses? It's normal to be nervous at this time, you don't have to resist it, you don't need to tell yourself "don't be nervous, don't be nervous", everyone will have different degrees of nervousness when they see strangers or talk to them, and it's okay to be nervous if you're nervous. However, being nervous doesn't mean that you can't eat normally, order food normally, chat and talk with the hairdresser normally, sit next to someone you don't know on the bus, it doesn't matter, and you don't have to worry about being found out that you're nervous, it's normal, because you're really nervous, and it doesn't matter if you're found haha.

The more you try to hide your nervousness, the more nervous you will be, so all you have to do is accept it, and it doesn't matter!

Of course, it doesn't matter if your attention is "tight or not", it's okay to be nervous. However, we can also focus on something else, for example, when ordering food in a restaurant, we can try to think: Huh?

Which dish is the best in this restaurant? What should I order for hot pot? What flavors of ice cream should I eat?

How is this barber going to cut my hair? We can turn our attention to what we're doing, and that's fine. Remember a phrase from the happiness lesson:

Face it, not run away from it. If you don't believe it, you may have eaten a meal with a red face on your face the first time, and you may have a barber who said what kind of hair you want to cut. But when you really try it out, you'll find out:

Ah, I'm nervous, but I can do it! The next thing is to be brave and try – to face it, not to run away from it. Slowly, you'll get used to it!

Remember, when you're nervous, accept your nervousness, nervousness is nervous, it's okay, everybody gets nervous. However, this does not mean that you cannot do what you are doing, you can try to shift your attention to what you are doing.

This situation is not as simple as persuasion by others, such as more contact with society, making more friends, etc. (I believe you know these truths yourself).

Therefore, it is recommended that you find a professional psychologist for guidance. You are aware of your problems and want to find a breakthrough. This is important (there are people who also have this problem, but don't admit it, or even resist it.

It is more difficult to change), as long as you are guided by a professional, I believe that you will definitely get out of the barrier.

Encourage yourself appropriately and behave in a crowded place, so that you will gradually enjoy the ......

You try to get closer, like coming back from outside, and then, going out, going farther and farther, and eventually you get over.