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Then you have to enlighten her and tell her that her parents are like that, and you can't care about it, just do something to show your parents that your wife is very capable. If she's still angry, it's up to you, kiss and hug and say some nice things, you have to control it yourself.

You can not say that your mother said it, but give her your opinion about what you want her to be, and that it will benefit her.

You shouldn't talk to your aunt about it, you will think that you are telling your aunt that she is not good, and then they stand aside, and you are talking about things.

Don't talk about your daughter-in-law in front of your mother, and don't talk about your mother's wrongness in front of your daughter-in-law.