Mother in law asked her husband to sleep in the living room on the pretext of going to work, and let

The mother-in-law can let her son sleep in the living room and let the daughter-in-law take the child to sleep in the bedroom because she is distressed that her son is not sleeping enough at work, but I don't support this.

My colleague is like this, because once in a while I chatted with her, she said that her husband slept in the living room, I thought it was an occasional thing, but it turned out that since the birth of the child like this (the child is almost six years old, and is about to go to elementary school), I went, didn't I live six years of separation as husband and wife? This colleague has a lot of dissatisfaction with life, dissatisfaction with her mother-in-law, dissatisfaction with her husband, and ...... because of the children's troublesChatting with her, I can only think of one word - resentful woman.

Clause. Second, the husband does not have a strong sense of responsibility for the children and the family.

Although it is a little hard for the husband to sleep with him at night, it enhances the husband's sense of responsibility for the children, and the children he has worked hard to bring out are bound to be closer, and the husband can also understand the hard work of his wife with the children and the dedication to the family. The husband who sleeps on the sofa in the living room will have a feeling that he only needs to go to work to earn money for the family.

Clause. 3. It is not conducive to the healthy growth of children.

In the child's concept, the image of the father is extremely weakened, and the child will be closer to the mother, and it is easy to have separation anxiety when going to kindergarten and sleeping in separate rooms.

This way ostensibly solves the problem of sleep, but in fact, it makes the relationship between husband and wife even more unharmonious. It is very hard for the wife to take care of the children alone at night, and the husband sleeps alone on the sofa, and he feels full of grievances, so I think this is a bad idea.

Why do I feel foggy? What does it have to do with my mother-in-law going to work and my husband sleeping in the living room? My mother-in-law wants to go to work, and I understand that I want to take care of the child, and the child is originally wanted to be taken by me!

In many families in my country, young couples go to work and then bring their children to their parents-in-law. Some families are even more miserable, with the couple going to work in the city and the children in the countryside. This kind of family and children can not see each other several times a year, it is difficult to witness the growth process of children, when the children grow up, the distance between themselves and children will also widen.

Therefore, I believe that no matter what, it should be based on the premise of witnessing the growth of children, and parents should not stay away from their children. If the parents-in-law have not retired and still need to go to work, the children should need to be brought by themselves. Originally, it is not the responsibility of the parents-in-law to take care of the children, but the responsibility of us as the parents of the children, and we cannot take the children for granted just because they are their grandchildren.

I feel that this kind of behavior kills the freedom of my parents-in-law.

The growth of a child is very important, and he should stay with his parents to receive the love of his parents, and only with the personal education of his parents can the child grow up better. And the father-in-law and mother-in-law are already old, so of course they are powerless in this regard. If they are professors in the field of education, and they meddle in education, and teach things that are not in line with your thinking, do you really have no opinion?

I've always believed that my parents-in-law should go to work, and if I retire, I should enjoy the world. And the responsibility of taking care of children originally lies with yourself, don't push your own responsibility onto others. They are not obligated to take care of their grandchildren, and they need to know that we are the guardians of our children.

The mother-in-law has to go to work, and let her husband sleep in the living room, probably because the mother-in-law is afraid that her husband will also go to work, and the child will cry and make noise to him, so that the husband will not be able to go to work the next day due to lack of sleep!

It can be seen how much the mother-in-law cares for her son, the child is the personal responsibility of the husband and wife, why let the wife bear it alone, the husband is very tired to work outside alone, so is it easy for the wife to take care of the child at home? I have to do housework, take care of the children, and cook, a person has to be distracted to do a lot of things, whether it is physical or mental tired, as the father of the child after work to help his wife is also should!

Let's talk about myself, my husband and I have a clear division of labor, I take the child during the day, he takes the child after work, the child wants to eat milk at night, and the husband gets up or milk powder for the child to eat, knowing that the next day to go to work, so that both of them have tried to take the child hard, otherwise the wife complains about being tired with the child every day, and others don't try to take the child is not what it's like to take the child!

In fact, taking care of children is not only a matter for the wife, but also for the child's childhood and husband. Nowadays, many people throw their children to their mother-in-law after giving birth to their children, and go out to earn money by themselves, in fact, this is not conducive to the growth of children, only parents with children can give children a good childhood!

So some ideas can not only listen to the mother-in-law, you should also have the idea, your husband should not be too lazy, the child is not the wife alone, if you don't want to take care of the child, you can not have children, after giving birth to a child, you think that the wife can bring you for free, is the wife your free nanny?

As long as the family conditions allow, if you can take care of the children yourself, don't give birth to your own mother-in-law, the old people will only get used to the children, and they can't teach the children well!